1. Have they told you they have booked or recently had genital surgery?
Yes – say “congratulations, that’s awesome, I’m so happy for you.”
No – see 3
2. Have they started a conversation about genital surgery?
Yes, they said it costs a lot of money – commiserate with them over the high costs
Yes, they brought it up because we’re going to have sex – okay, it’s fine to discuss it, just don’t be weird.
No – see 3
3. Have they mentioned genital surgery at all?
Yes – refer to 1 and 2. If this does not help, then just don’t be weird
No – DO NOT mention genital surgery
Rules for discussing genital surgery with trans people if you’re cis
1. Don’t be weird
2. Really, don’t be weird
3. Don’t bring it up first
4. Seriously, don’t be weird
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